5 Ways to Become More Attractive to Latter-day Saint Guys

Do you feel like you’re doing everything right but just aren’t catching guys’ attention? Tired of swiping on Mutual and wondering why you never match with the “good guys?”

I got to have an exclusive interview with Jacob Beck, Latter-day Saint husband who’s here to give us x-ray vision into the Latter-day Saint male brain — what guys actually think, and what actually makes them want to marry you.

You can watch the full interview here, OR read the top 5 tips I pulled out for how ANY Latter-day Saint single girl can become more attractive to the RIGHT Latter-day Saint guys.

1. Playfulness > perfection

It’s easy to get caught up in keeping your hair perfectly styled, your clothes perfectly curated for your body type, or even performing perfectly at school, work, or sports. And while that stuff can help catch a guy’s attention, what really makes you stand out is playfulness.

Guys want a girl they can have fun with! Don’t be afraid to joke around and play! That will really attract a guy and make him want to spend more time with you.

2. Present your best self

This may sound opposite to what I literally just said, but hear me out.

Perfection isn’t the goal—but effort is attractive! You don’t have to change who you are or try to hide your natural traits, but do the best you can to appropriately present yourself.

If rolling out of bed and doing life in your pajamas is your norm, consider adding in 20-30 minutes in the morning to take a shower, do your hair, and wear something that says: “I’m a beautiful woman, and I take care of myself!”

3. Send the right message

Modesty can be a hot-button topic, but how modestly you dress does affect what kind of guys you attract (or don’t attract). If you don’t get this right, you might turn off a good guy that could have been a great match.

In your daily life and in your online presence, ask yourself: What message would this outfit send to someone who doesn’t know me? Would my ideal, temple-marriage man be interested in me based on what I’m wearing right now? Be prayerful and honest with yourself.

4. Get involved in the real world

If you spend a lot of your spare time scrolling on social media or streaming tv shows, that just makes you normal. Buuuuut… if you want to stand out, try engaging more in real life!

So put yourself out there! Try a new sport, a hobby, a club, a weekly service opportunity, an art class—anything you’re interested in! Consistently invest time in things that help you learn, grow, and contribute to others.

This one is great for two reasons: 

• It makes you interesting and unique! You’ll have a lot more to talk about on a date, and when you do things that are enriching to you, it makes you glow!
• You expand your dating pool! If you spend time in new circles, you can meet new people—with whom you automatically have something in common.

5. Build God-confidence, not just self-confidence

The world says to be self-confident. While confidence is very attractive, self-confidence is not as powerful as God-confidence.

You can be confident in yourself, but even more so you can (and must!) be confident in God! He will never let you down. He will teach you what to change in your life to become the most attractive version of yourself. And He can make those changes possible!